How to Destress Your Relationship
74When we are in a relationship it is because we enjoy one another. Often times life can get in the way and cause stress and strain on a couple and we may loose sight of why we were together in the first place.
Love is two souls binding into one. This should mean that kindness, consideration, friendship, and tenderness come easily. If this is how your relationship was, and now is not, chances are you need to destress your relationship.
What does it mean to destress your relationship? Well, when we are stressed we are filled with doubt, fear, and worry. When we destress ourselves we change that stress into success. The success I am talking about is certainty, confidence, and hope. Here are six great ways to Destress Your Relationship.
- Start each day with gratitude. When you wake up, each day, think of what you are grateful for in the other person. Frequently, people focus on what is wrong rather than what is right, and a good habit is to focus on what is right. What is right with your partner? Write it down in a small love note and give it to each other every morning. This is an excellent way to start the day.
- Give what you would like to receive. If you want love and affection then give love and affection. The best way to figure out how to do this is to sit down together and discuss what each one wants, make a list, and give. Concentrate on giving, not on what you are not getting. Giving is the greatest gift of all and if you have not learned that yet keep giving until you do.
- Always compliment and never insult. Sometimes we think it is funny to put someone down in a joking manner but it is not, it is hurtful. When you are playful with one another make it positive, never negative. Try to compliment one another often, so often it gets sickening and then you can laugh and be playful about it.
- Read a relationship book together. Every night, rather than watch TV, read a relationship book that you both agree on. This does three things, first it helps you spend quality time together, second you will learn great relationship skills together, and third your communication will improve and increase.
- Define what a best friend is. Sit down together and brainstorm what a best friend is. Write down what it means to be a best friend. This exercise is awesome because when you create your list you are defining your characteristics in your relationship and like magic you are the ultimate best friends.
- Pray together. A couple that prays together stays together.
Choose one or all of these exercises and I guarantee that you will destress your relationship. When you are two souls binding together as one you will be willing to do anything to keep your love and happiness alive. These are small tasks that will make considerable differences.
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Dear Amber,
You are welcome! Thank you for visiting and commenting on my hub.
Have a great week.
Elizabeth Stanfill
I only found the second comment helpful.
Hi Chris,
I am grateful that at least one thing was helpful. The only question I have for you is, did you try the others? It is my belief that we must have an open mind and try new things to produce improvements in any part of our lives.
Thank you for the comment and good luck to you and your other half...
Elizabeth
All these advices are very ideal, but they never seem to work in real life. From real life experiences, communication and understanding and mutual support is what's needed to get out of a sticky situation.
Always complimenting and never insulting is only half right. Complimenting too much makes it fake if you and your other half have IQs over 120. You have to be realistic and be there to tell your other half when he/she is wrong and be able to help them through it. The level of maturity and intelligence plays a big part as well as the maturity and intelligence of your other half.
Defining a best friend doesn't really help. It's always a bonus when your best friend is your other half, but in real life that is rarely the case. You need to have a good balance of mutual friends and some personal space, everything must be in balance.
Read a relationship book together? Most relationship books tells you to "rekindle" or give more patience. It doesn't work, often times only one person is willing to put more effort into the relationship, if your other half is not satisfied it will only bore him / her that you two need to resort to some book.
I do agree with number two, but these are the things you should have done from day one. Many couples break up not because they don't love each other, but because they got too comfortable and then bored, and couldn't deal with the change from their expectations. It's sad that today people's temper is so short, and we don't see that the one we are with right now is perfect, they just move on to the next wrong step.
amber mauldin 3 years ago
thank you , thank you, thank you, for the wonderful advice!!